When most people decide to try using the Law of Attraction in their life, they usually try to manifest more love or money. Especially love.
The reason why is many believe if they had more money or love in their life, they’d be happier and better off.
The twin desires fuel a psychic and medium market worth $2.2 billion in 2018, the most recent year for which statistics are available. Psychics-for-hire typically focus their ads on these areas.
Self-help books focusing on these areas fill the real and virtual bookshelves of retailers. The whole self-improvement industry is now worth around $12 billion.
Songwriters have written many songs about a lack of these two things.
All these yearners might have a point. Who couldn’t use more money or more love? While a billionaire may or may not feel like they have enough money, she or he undoubtedly feels they could use a few more true friends. Many of the rest of us feel like we could use a few more dollars in the bank if only to provide a feeling of security.
Yet trying to manifest love and money is misguided. Love and money is a symptom or result of something the way being short of breath is. It’s the result of an effect of something else. There are many ways to get money. Love, too, comes about from a lot of causes.
Take the example of someone who’s short of breath. Being short of breath is caused by something else like running, retaining fluid, lung damage from smoking, or being anxious. It can be temporary or long term. It can be caused by yourself or by a force outside of you, like strangulation.
There’s always a root cause to it. Something is going on there.
There could be bad some luck contributing to the situation, of course. Take the hypothetical person who was genetically predisposed to lung damage before he started smoking. They’re the opposite of the person who smokes and drinks heavily for 65 years with no apparent ill effects. After ten years of smoking, the unlucky one is short of breath after mild exertion. Most people would have taken 20. They have the bad luck of being particularly vulnerable to smoking’s effects. Their actions potentiated it. It’s bad luck, and more.
What brings more money and love your way?
In the case of money, conventional wisdom states it’s personal characteristics like thrift, being hard-working, creativity, and temperance. A little luck then amplifies all of these virtues.
In the case of love, it’s the process of nurturing personal relationships. These actions would include caring about and listening to others, remembering their names and birthdays, conversational skill, trying to understand what’s important to them, and making a basic effort in that direction.
Most people would also include a little luck on the list. To have a friendship or an intimate relationship with the “right” person, you have to meet them. That’s an area a stroke of luck would seem to help with.
The headline of this article, however, speaks to the importance of play. We haven’t touched on that yet. That we haven’t may violate one of the commandments of clear, concise writing.
Yet we have, if only indirectly. Being playful brings all kinds of good things our way. It’s a disposition, an indirect root cause. It’s not seen that way because sometimes playfulness can be confused with silliness or foolishness. They can look the same on the outside.
The case for playfulness
The English language has a bit of a gap when it comes to describing a certain kind of play. The very definition of play is “an action that engages in sport or recreation.” Or, further, “to deal with in a light, speculative, or sporting manner.”
Our days are filled with humdrum activities, like having to fill out forms on a deadline. We encounter problems springing up out of, seemingly, nowhere. How are you going to deal with that in a “light, speculative, or sporting manner”? If you try, people may well think you’re a fool or that you’re not quite right in the head.
The problem is, is that there’s not a better word for the mood with which you approximate play.
In his classic course on fitness, Charles Atlas wrote of dealing with the day’s chores in the manner of one who is cleaning out unwanted garbage. The mindset he advocated was that you’re opening windows and doors and sweeping the dirt and trash out of your “house.”
If you were doing that, you’d be happy. You’d feel and be positive. You’d be building a good future and righting the wrongs of the past.
Further, other people would understand that they’d be within their rights to feel relieved. The dirt and garbage are getting out of there, right? That’s a good thing.
If you had enemies, they’d feel bad because you’re getting your life on track. The objectionable material isn’t staying around. You’re making progress. Yet part of them would like to join in with you in feeling good that the bad stuff was going away.
In a sense, you’re playing because you might have to visualize that the form is a dragon you’re slaying or a dictator you’re overthrowing. It’s not behaving like a child when an adult is needed. It’s not inappropriate. It’s not obscene. It’s not foolish. It’s isn’t aimless.
The playful way of being is supremely unstressed. It’s a joyful and victorious way of living. It greets the day and the situation with a smile. It makes the most out of the circumstances and, in doing that, triumphs over them. It’s the opposite of appearing to be bothered.
Another way of approaching the idea of day-to-day play is through the concept of chi.
In tai chi, practitioners talk about getting rid of stale chi and bringing in good, fresh chi.
When an overwhelming job confronts the person who is playful in this way, he finds a way to divide the task up to make it manageable.
The playful person notices things about other people, helping them see themselves in a new light, often a positive one. They provide a mirror for others. The mirror the playful person shows to the world is honest, for others are often ultimately grateful to see when their actions are a little off.
Either way, the playful person is charitable and understanding. They’re not a victim of circumstance.
They’re unpredictable in a good way. Interactions with them aren’t dull. They leave you smiling, maybe either entertained, amused, awed, or impressed. Playful people are confident. Why? They’ve conquered the bad stuff, the filth and trash nobody wants. They’re facing a brilliant sunrise that, maybe, only they can see.
Ultimately, the playful person is a ray of color and brightness in what can be a world of darkness and shadow. A playful person is gay in the older sense of the world.
It’s as if they’ve received a vaccine from contracting a psychosomatic illness.
Relaxed, creativity flows from them. Radiating calmness, they promote serenity. Often, when they play, others play too. When this happens, tasks get checked off of the list. Even better, you gain control.
If you can manage this mindset, if you can genuinely play in this way every day, getting enough high-quality sleep is a challenge that’s easier to master. Then, being playful in this way is reinforced further by sleeping enough.
It’s a virtuous cycle of winning.
That’s why and that’s the way you need to play every day.
A vision board is a crafty way to play toward your goals.
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