Dreams are fun but it’s best to acknowledge it and not to get stuck on that aspect.
It’s cool when you do something like holding seven men at gunpoint in your dreams.
Or when you save a life.
Or when you ride a horse really fast.
Unfortunately, the long-term dream journaler pseudonymously named “Barb Sanders” had a superficial understanding of her dreams even though she kept a dream journal for years.
Over a lifetime, that’s a lot of missed opportunities.
At her fingertips in the pages of her journal were advice and understanding that could have helped her to have lived a better, more meaningful life. All she had to do was think about what she had written. It needed to become knowledge, something more than information.
Her friends believed that she had a problem seeing her relationships for what she wanted them to be rather than what they were. Sanders suffered heartaches that went on for years. Was it her fault? Did she just not know any better? Could that happen to any of us? If it can, how can we avoid it?
Impulsively she broke up with Darrell. They had made an agreement that they would be free to see other people. Deep down she thought he wouldn’t. She was shocked when he did.
It’s plain to see that her 18-year-old self took Darrell for granted. She didn’t realize what he meant to her until much later in her life. Awareness of your dreams can help you figure out the value of different people and things in your life and even the value of your values.
Derek and Howard
Dreams can also help you see things the way that they are. That could have helped her avoid heartache with Derek
But the biggest tragedy was how Sanders wound up with Howard. She had her suspicions from the very beginning that he was shallow and that he was only interested in sex and not in her. If Sanders had been more in tune with her dreams, she might have been emboldened enough to have a meaningful conversation with Howard. Perhaps Howard had problems expressing himself as many men do.
On the other hand, maybe Howard really was that shallow. Either way with a little bravery and, and a little bit of self-knowledge from not only understanding what dreams she had but what they really were about and what they meant for her inner self, Sanders could have left a happier and more fulfilling life.
Just minutes a day can make a big difference!
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James Cobb, RN, MSN, is an emergency department nurse and the founder of the Dream Recovery System. His goal is to provide his readers with simple, actionable ways to improve their health and maximize their quality of life.
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