Q: A girl I went out on a second date with told me that she had a dream where we were married and that we had a couple of kids together? She said that she didn’t want to get married right now, that she just thought that it was a weird, interesting dream. I don’t know what to think about this. She seemed standoffish on our date. I’m confused.
You can try to interpret someone else’s dream, but you’re not going to be 100 percent accurate. It’s important to realize that from the start.
The better question is, if you try to interpret someone else’s dream are you going to be accurate enough? Even without being completely spot-on, are you going to be able to understand them better?
The answer to that is a qualified “maybe.”
You can try to use the Dream Recovery System’s Dream Interpretation System, but realize that you’re going to be handicapped.
You can try to “put yourself in someone else’s shoes.” Even so, you’re never going to have the full knowledge of their life experiences behind your interpretation.
How to try to understand someone else’s dream
In this case, you’d ask your date what she thought about you. Assuming she was honest and that she took the question seriously, you might get some insight.
You’re not actually appearing in her dream. Rather, you’re a symbol. You’re getting to what she thinks you represent.
It could be an intense compliment. You might have said something on your date where you represented what she’d like to find in a future husband.
On the other hand, maybe you’re representative of the dating pool. If she wants to get married someday, she’s going to have to choose among the young men she encounters. You’re representative of that group of men.
Other interpretations are completely possible, too.
Ask questions like: “How do you feel about _____ in your dream?” And: “What does _____ mean to you in this context?”
When it’s your role that you’re trying to understand, asking “Well, what do you think about me?” shouldn’t be awkward.
Her answer can tell you a lot or nothing at all.
After all, she could say, “Oh, nothing at all! It was just a stupid, silly dream!”
If your friend doesn’t seem to engage in much self-reflection, your interpretation of their dream may not be accurate at all.
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James Cobb, RN, MSN, is an emergency department nurse and the founder of the Dream Recovery System. His goal is to provide his readers with simple, actionable ways to improve their health and maximize their quality of life.
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