How To Make Peace With Hearing Voices

From time to time throughout the day Mark feels a little man sitting on his shoulder. The young man turns his head quickly to try to catch a glimpse of him, never quite managing it. Mark thinks he sees the man’s foot disappearing out of the corner of his eye as the man zips out of the range of his vision every time Mark spins to look. Mark never gets a good look so he can’t be sure. That little man is quick.

The invisible man whispers into Mark’s ear. He provides a commentary of everything Mark looks at.

When the man takes a break from saying something nasty about other people, he has advice for Mark. You should kill yourself, the invisible man suggests. The world would be better off without you. You’re a piece of shit.

The little man continues his badgering, over and over again, day after day.

“Stop it!” Mark says. Tears stream down his face. “Stop talking! Just stop!”

The only way I’ll stop is if you kill yourself, the little invisible man says.

“Just leave me alone,” Mark says, muttering. “Why won’t you leave me alone?”

Today Jeff was fired from his job at the car dealership. He’s laying on his bed with a bottle of vodka in his hand. From time to time he takes a swig of the clear alcohol. It goes down harshly, not at all smoothly. He doesn’t like it, but he keeps drinking because it numbs the pain of being fired.

Okay, he admits to himself, I wasn’t cut out for selling cars. It wasn’t for me.

Jeff realizes he enjoys looking at cars, enjoys driving them, but when it comes to selling them, not so much. Customers frustrated him. They asked a lot of dumb questions.

It probably was my attitude, Jeff admits.

The dealership wanted results. I wasn’t getting them.

It wasn’t particularly painful to admit that. The truth had been coming clear or awhile. The sign his job was in jeopardy was right in front of him.

The dealership ranked all of the salespeople and posted it as a notice in the staff breakroom. Jeff had been ranked right at the bottom for the last three months. That made him feel desperate. Customers — and the rest of the sales staff — sensed it.

He had a mortgage and a car payment to pay. While he could go see them back at the restaurant about getting his old job back, that would still make it tight going.

“What am I going to do now? I’m a no good fuck up!”

It’s going to be all right.

The voice and feeling come out of nowhere, soothing him. Jeff feels like he’s being hugged, comforted like he’s a child.

The young man cries.

Auditory Hallucination Or Not?

Both of these men heard voices. The field of psychiatry calls these voices auditory hallucinations. To both men, they don’t seem like hallucinations, a figment of their imaginations. The voices seem very real. In both cases, the sensation wasn’t limited to the verbal. Their other senses were engaged as well. That doesn’t always happen, however. Sometimes people just hear voices and nothing else.

Mark heard a voice tormenting him, telling him to die. He felt pressure on his shoulder. This has the characteristic of a bipolar disorder. This may be a mental illness.

On the other hand, Jeff heard a voice soothing him and felt an embrace. The voices didn’t belong to anyone or anything either man could see. Even so, Jeff’s experience wouldn’t be classified as a mental illness.

Why this is so is because of what illness is considered to be. A voice that builds you up and gives you strength is enriching. Conversely, one that impairs your ability to function makes you worse off.

Which voice was real? We really don’t know. Nobody can know for sure. Maybe one. Maybe both. Maybe neither. It wouldn’t be accurate to suggest that because the person can’t see the origin of the voice, that would preclude the voice from being real. Modern physics tells us there is much more to the world than what we can see with our eyes. Mystics and tradition tell us that there is a whole range of entities we can’t see: spirits; demons; angels, and so on. This fits in with the experiences of people worldwide. One in ten people hear voices.

You can have these experiences when you’re awake. You can have them in dreams when you’re asleep. Some people report hearing them as they’re drifting off to sleep. They can be very negative. They can be very positive.

It can be best if you treat the voice as if it belongs to a being with a body.

You don’t simply do what a voice tells you to do if it’s not right. For example, shooting people sitting in parked cars who have done nothing to you as David Horowitz did because he was hearing voices isn’t right. Simple morality always applies.

People like him who give up control of their own actions give hearing voices in your head a bad name.

Saints like St. John of the Cross and St. Teresa of Avila heard voices. In and of itself, hearing voices isn’t a bad thing. On the contrary, it can be inspirational, a great source of wisdom and interior strength.

You don’t simply obey the voice just because it has no body.

You are responsible for your own actions.

What to do if you hear voices?

Step 1: Evaluate yourself

Are you taking any medication that has been known to cause hallucinations? Are you under an excessive amount of stress? Did you take any substance that’s known to cause hallucinations? Are you getting an appropriate amount of sleep?

These things can cause people to have hallucinations. If that’s the case, as the stress lessens or the psychoactive substance wears off, the voice may go away.

Step 2: Evaluate the voice

People have struggled to identify if a particular voice is spiritual or psychotic over time.

We should also consider that sometimes voices are neither positive nor negative. Sometimes they’re neutral. We, therefore, break down voices into spiritual, psychotic and neutral.

Types of voices

What’s a Spiritual Voice Like?

These voices have a kind, gentle, and loving quality. There’s a profoundly wise character to them. They’re soothing, often use complete sentences whether the sentence is short or not.

What’s a Psychotic Voice Like?

These voices tend to be terse, involve the repetition of single words or short phrases. They’re extremely negative, hostile, or antagonistic. They issue commands combined with threats. Sometimes they involve two or more voices speaking about the individual in the third person.

The psychotic voices seem calculated to drive the individual to madness.

They’re absolutely different experiences.

What are Neutral Voices Like?

They aren’t particularly loving, wise, or profound. Neither are they menacing. They vary in character a lot. They don’t fill you with a light, loving feeling nor do they fill you with dread.

The voice can seem like they’re trying to communicate with someone who will listen or who they’re able to talk with. They can be trying to give information. This place was ours! Help me! As opposed to the spiritual voice or the psychotic voice, the neutral voice is more self-focused on their situation.

Disembodied voices, whether spiritual, psychotic or neutral can appear in dreams or while waking. Mediums often can see visuals that the entity wishes to show them.

A neutral voice can also be somewhat spiritual if you determine that it seems like it belongs to a departed friend or family member. Often, the primary message of the friend or family member is that they love you and that they’re all right. Sometimes it’s not a voice, so much as it is a feeling.

It’s important to come to terms with these voices. While there is a stigma in our society associated with hearing voices, it’s important to realize that, over time, it’s a common experience for many people.

It’s less threatening if you determine the character of the voice. It’s also important to not blindly obey the voice. You are fully responsible for your actions at all times.

Realize, too, that some have reported the character of a voice changing over time. A voice can start out as neutral or even loving. Later it devolves into a menacing evil. The character of the voice must be evaluated. If the voice is telling you to do something wrong, as before, don’t do it simply because it’s disembodied.

If you feel like you can’t take hearing the voice or that you feel control of your actions slipping away, it’s important to seek help at an emergency department. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s nothing that anyone in emergency services hasn’t heard of before. Overly negative disembodied voices have driven people to suicide before.

On the other hand, it’s perfectly fine to make peace with the voice if it’s neutral or spiritual. Many people have before. It can be a source of strength and or enlightenment an asset to you.

How Can You Stop Hearing Voices Naturally?

Allow yourself to experiment. It can be helpful to experiment to see what works for you and works to eliminate the particular voice.  No one solution will work perfectly for everyone. Everyone is different. Every situation is different.

Structure Your Day

This is the first line of defense against hearing voices. If you can keep busy, the voices may be crowded out in your mind. Going for a walk while you listen to music you enjoy can help. Doing a home improvement project or creating art can occupy your minds. Dusting, cleaning, sweeping can help. The goal is to replace positive activity with the voices. Experiment to find out what works for you.

Ignore What They Tell You

If they’re not being useful, ignore them just as you might ignore any other nuisance. Tell them, “I’m too busy to talk now.”

Engage the Voices

Alternately, engage the voices. If they’re being nasty, tell them they have no right to talk to you like that. Tell them something like, “You get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.” Put the voices in their place. Be assertive. Don’t do this in public, however, because that would create a scene.

Pray

Prayer can be very effective in crowding out voices. If you’ve tried prayer and it feels unnatural and you’re not sure you’re doing it right, ask the advice of someone whom you feel respect for, someone who seems wise to you. It doesn’t have to be a minister, though a minister may have more complete, well-thought-out answers for you. Talking about prayer with someone else may feel awkward. It may feel superstitious. On the other hand, consider how lots of people have been praying for thousands of years. On the basis of that alone, there must be something to it, right? Many people who are affiliated with an organized faith — or even spiritual not religious — would be pleased to give you there perspective once they understand you’re sincere. You don’t have to tell them about the voices either.

Sometimes things like prayer beads or devotional candles can help one focus when it comes to praying.

Wear Earplugs

If a voice is whispering in one ear, put an earplug in it.

Avoid Drugs and Alcohol

These substances make it hard to maintain control and can lead to an exacerbation of the voices. You want to strictly avoid drugs and alcohol. Another big reason to do so is that if you start taking medication to help manage the voices, alcohol and other drugs can interfere with them.

How Can You Help Someone Else Who’s Hearing Voices?

The most important thing is to engage in non-judgemental conversation. Encourage them to avoid drugs and alcohol. Ask them if they’re suicidal. If they are, that’s a medical emergency and they need to go to an emergency department that can provide them with around-the-clock medical care.

If they’re not suicidal, ask them what the voices are saying.

For many people, it can be very therapeutic to engage in non-judgemental conversation.

Taken together, these strategies can be very effective in helping you or someone else manage. If you try them and you don’t seem to be making any headway against the voices, strongly consider seeking direct medical help. Share what you’ve done to try to control them. There are medications that can help, though they aren’t without side effects.