Dreams can help you make good decisions in any number of areas. Deciding who to marry is no exception.
As we sleep, we mull over the events of the day, processing information. Paying attention to your dreams sheds light on this information. By analyzing and understanding your dreams, you understand more about yourself and more about others better.
There’s not any kind of mysterious magic in dreams. Not usually, anyway. Sometimes what’s revealed by recording and understanding your dreams is stuff you already knew but may or may not have been at the top of your mind.
This increased awareness of things you may or may not have consciously noticed—or have been more comfortable ignoring than dealing with—can help you make better decisions in any area of your life.
There’s always a reason why you dreamed what you did.
Decisions, decisions
Choosing a husband is a big decision. There are pluses and minuses to each fellow you might meet. Each of the four types of knowledge applies to each of them. There are the things you know. The things you know you don’t know. The things you don’t know you know. And, finally, the things you don’t know that you don’t know.
That’s a lot! Right? It can be confusing. You’re never going to know everything. A key to confidence is your dream interpretation skills.
Beyond that, it’s a matter of honestly reacting to and trying to understand any concerns your subconscious raises.
Dreams originate in the subconscious, a center of emotion.
On the other hand, the conscious mind, the part that you use to interpret a dream, is a center of logic and understanding.
Both logic and emotion are important, though many shortchange the importance of understanding emotion.
Love
Love can be a decision, but it’s often experienced as an emotion.
What are emotions for? It’s worth asking. Sometimes they lead us to make stupid decisions. Emotions help give meaning to life. They provide color. It makes sense to incorporate both logic and emotion in decision making. There’s a heart and emotion component, but it pays to bring in your head, too.
You may, for example, wish you had a particular job. The job seems like it would be interesting. It comes with a big salary. People would give you a lot of respect if you had it. Sounds good, right?
Emotionally, however, you might dread that particular job. The job in question comes with final responsibility in making decisions that affect a lot of people’s lives. It could come with severe constraints on your free time. Sometimes, too, you’d be interrupted. While you’d like the money, the respect, and the interesting work, the heavy responsibility, the lack of free time, and the frequent interruptions would make you unhappy. If you could incorporate your emotions in decision making, you could avoid a lot of trouble.
Not everyone is the same. Some people would enjoy having a lot of responsibility, or at least be indifferent to it. They might enjoy the pace.
Your emotions are worth considering in any big decision, especially when it involves love.
Knowing your emotions = knowing yourself
Deciding who to marry is one of, if not the biggest, decisions you will make in your life. Jobs come and go. People move, change their address; same thing happens with cars.
You’re supposed to get married only once. Don’t get scared of it. It’s fulfilling and indescribably wonderful to find your other half. Yet it’s useful to develop fluency with your subconscious’s dream language before bringing it into far-reaching, impactful decisions like deciding who to marry.
Once you do that, there are a lot of different tools that you can employ related to understand if you’re considering Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong. These dream-based tools include interpretation, guided dreams, and even clarifying dreams.
Even sleeping well is a kind of tool. When you don’t sleep well, you’re tired. When you’re tired, your intelligence level goes down. When you’re less intelligent, it’s harder to make good decisions.
Can you tell the future from dreams?
Not directly. There have been plenty of stories about people who’ve dreamed of the future. But there have also been stories of people who have had dreams of the “future.” Most people aren’t psychic, and even those who you might consider to be psychic have plenty of misses when it comes to predicting.
Thinking you’re seeing the future is like looking at a dream literally when it’s a symbolic communication. Even if it’s the most mundane situation one can imagine, it’s often more accurate to think of it as symbolic if it’s in your dreams.
Start journaling your dreams and trying to understand them today! Not every dream you have about choosing a husband or dating will be about him directly. Sometimes the meaning is hidden. It pays to try to understand your dreams every morning.
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James Cobb, RN, MSN, is an emergency department nurse and the founder of the Dream Recovery System. His goal is to provide his readers with simple, actionable ways to improve their health and maximize their quality of life.
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